2015 was clearly a year of growth for me. Many significant things happened that have enriched my life and clarified my path.
In addition to revealing and solidifying my relationship with my Dad, I
have reconnected with more long time friends as well as welcoming many
new friends and also dealt with the excess baggage I have been carrying
from other relationships that were not enhancing my life. My
relationships with my core family has improved and even expanded to
include others and my life with my wonderful wife just gets better every
day. 2016 will make it four years Ngoc and I have been together, and I
have to say, I have never had a better partner in life. All of our kids
are steadily progressing well and we are proud of all of them.
My first Veteran's Tour of Vietnam went very well. And I finally got my
first book published after a five year delay with the next one already
in the works.
I feel much more in touch this New Year and
centered than ever before in my life. I am at a place where my options
are almost wide open. Ngoc and I have many plans for new ventures that
we hope to develop in the year ahead.
I am even more aware of all of this after the phone call I received last night.
It is funny how things happen. Ngoc and I were just entering the local
Albertson’s store to pick up some chicken for dinner last night when my
phone rang. It was a number from Union Point, Georgia, which I did not
recognize. Normally, I might let such a call go to voice mail,
especially after receiving so many unwanted calls lately, like political
or solicitation calls, but I decided to answer it.
would like to talk to Skip Nelson please” said the clear, articulate
voice on the other end of the line. “This is Skip Nelson” I said. He
continued, “I am Stephen ________ and I am calling concerning my older
brother, who is a Vietnam Veteran. Our mother recently passed away and I
have been left in charge of care for my brother. Since returning from
Vietnam, he has been troubled and reclusive. I just took him to the
doctor for the first time in 45 years. He will not speak and avoids
contact with anyone. He was stationed in Quy Nhon and I found your
organization and your name on the internet. I am very sorry to bother
you but I was hoping that you could give me some back ground that would
help me understand better what he went through and why he might be in
this condition. I hope you can help.”
Hook taken and set.
I asked Stephen to call me back in an hour when I was at home, which he
did, and we talked at length. He told me he had gone to the trouble of
obtaining all of his brother’s medical and military records from the
Army Records Center, he had contacted the Veteran’s Administration and
had gotten his brother “in the system” for care and evaluation. I
commended him for doing what he was doing. What a remarkable act in the
name of love.
Talking to Stephen, I got very emotional. At
times, I found it hard to speak and tears welled up in my eyes. My
emotions were both of sadness and happiness and uplifting of spirit.
My sadness was triggered by the condition of his brother, who has
suffered for over 40 years, alone and without relief. My happiness and
uplifting of spirit were triggered by the overwhelming sense of
brotherly love and understanding that this young man was showing for his
older, troubled brother and his mission to seek solutions to help him.
That is what being a brother and family is all about. Sadly, many do not
understand this. Many throw blame and insults. Still fewer will be like
Stephen and actually do something to help. He doesn't have to.
There are way too many of these cases. Some people, although they are
physically present never “came home”. It is still happening today, from
Iraq and Afganistan. If we can afford to spend billions to fight wars,
we should be able to spend enough to help those who fought them when
they are in need.
I asked him to email me some of his brother’s
records so I could get a better idea of what the circumstances were that
may have caused his condition and that hopefully, together, we could do
something that would help bring his brother home. Stephen agreed and we
will be talking again soon. I am determined to do all I can to help
bring this "brother" home.
What a wonderfully spiritual way to end the year………and to start another. I will probably never refuse another phone call.
Happy New Year everyone!!!! Broaden your horizons. Enhance your
understanding. Break down walls. Enrich your lives and those around you.
It is our job to lift people up, not push people down.
Don’t forget to reach out when you have an opportunity.
Saturday, December 5, 2015
The period from November through February has traditionally been a time of celebration for every religion or culture.
It started over 6,000 years ago with the celebration of the Winter Solstice, the shortest day of the year, which occurs on December 21.
The “Holiday Season” as we know it, has many holidays, some of which are celebrated for a week or more.
Islamic New Year is celebrated anywhere from late September until late December.
Thanksgiving is celebrated the last Thursday in November by most, regardless of religious beliefs.
Bodhi Day is a Buddhist holiday celebrated on December 8, which is the day when the Buddha attained enlightenment under the Bodhi Tree.
The Jewish holiday of Hanukah also falls during the “Holiday Season, this year begins on December 6 and goes until December 14.
Christmas, the celebration of Jesus’ birthday, which actually occurred originally sometime in March or April, was originally incorporated into the Winter Solstice celebration and is now celebrated on December 25.
The African holiday Kwanzaa is celebrated from December 26 until January 1.
Japanese New Year, Shogatsu, is celebrated from December 28 until January 5.
The Hindu holiday, Lohri, also a solstice celebration, is celebrated on January 13.
Lunar New Year is celebrated usually in the month of January, next year on February 8 and goes for two weeks.
Holidays in this time of year are traditionally viewed as a way to celebrate the end of the year and looking forward to a new year; a time of reflection and rebirth.
This is a spiritual time for all people, even those who are not religious.
Personally, I have been wishing everyone “Happy Holidays” since the early 1960’s, when I realized that many of my friends did not celebrate Christmas as I did. I have always considered it an act of inclusion and respect.
I do not know the conditions where others live, but I know that saying “Merry Christmas” in my world is just as popular as ever. I have never seen anyone being told not to say it. It seems to me that if you are secure in your beliefs, diversity should not bother you.
I do think, however, as we get more educated in the diverse culture that we have here in America, more people are showing respect to all people, and have adapted to the more inclusive term of “Happy Holidays”.
Many businesses, whose main goal is to attract a customer base and make money, have switched to using “Happy Holidays” as a way to sell more stuff to those who do not celebrate Christmas. I thought all those who claim “Christmas is being stolen” or somehow destroyed or depleted, love business and making money.
It does not bother me one bit.
I prefer to be inclusive. I prefer to respect all people’s beliefs and do not attempt to impose my beliefs on others.
The “War on Christmas” is a hoax. It does not exist. It is distracting you from the more important issues of our day.
Do not be mislead.
Have a Wonderful Holiday Season, no matter what your beliefs!!!